Making Things Happen 2013: Why?

Thursday, April 11, 2013

Man oh man. I'm finally to a point where I feel like I can honestly and meaningfully reflect publicly on all that I learned at the Making Things Happen conference in Chapel Hill, NC. But, some background before I start...

For those of you who are like.. what is this thing she always talks about?
I'll just take some words from the MTH website for yall. Short and sweet before I get lengthy and detailed.

This two-day intensive was designed to fire you up and get you on a powerful path to making big things happen in life and in business. Just a few of the topics covered: conquering fear, discovering your strengths, eliminating distractions, making bold leaps in life and in turn in business, how your environment and the people around you affect you, living your ideal day, authenticity and action. Making Things Happen was founded on the idea that you have the choice to change your life. The Making Things Happen Intensive is about personal evolution.

Why did I attend Making Things Happen? During wedding planning, I became drawn to Southern Weddings magazine as (pretty much) my sole online source for inspiration. Coming from a British family and marrying into a very Southern one, I was obsessed with the infusion of a hospitable, family oriented, relaxed.. SOUTHERN lifestyle into our wedding. Hence our photos taken on a front porch. 

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Photo by Caroline Joy Photography (a MTH alum!)

I then began reading the blog of the editor of SW, Lara Casey. Her love for the Lord and desire to inspire and motivate others was drawing for me. I also had been a longtime fan of Emily Ley, an incredibly talented stationary designer, honest blogger, and fierce mama bear. Emily makes up another third of the MTH team. I read about the Making Things Happen Conference and thought it was incredible, yet felt so unworthy to be in the presence of the incredible women I imagined would attend.

On February 5, I read this blog post. When I read that Nancy Ray, of Nancy Ray photography, another blog that I read regularly, was going to be a guest speaker, I felt a huge stirring in my heart to actually attend this conference. For me, I connect through the written word. I feel most loved through sweet notes and thoughtful text messages. I gain from quiet times where I journal, and can reflect back on those words. I have learned so much through reading blogs, and I know that may seem silly to some people... but I adore seeing inspirational images and hearing people's stories and admiring their courage to share their hearts in hopes that they will reach someone, anyone.
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Lara Casey Media

So one month into marriage, Ben and I decided to go for it. I cannot stress to you how thankful I am for my supportive husband. He knew how much I wanted to hear from these ladies and even with our limited budget, he said I could go. Then a lot of different things set in... I constantly thought about what a sickeningly selfish wife I was, planning a trip for myself... committing to spend a pretty good chunk of our savings, which, if we are transparent here, are 99.9% from Ben's hard work and anticipation of me one day being his wife. (Gah, I could cry with gratitude even typing that. Love my man so much.) I thought about how nervous and shy I would feel in a large group. How could I share a hotel room for two days with a total stranger that I would meet at the conference? I remember telling Ben that as much as I knew I wouldn't want to go when the day came, I knew I was supposed to. I guess I meant that I would not want to be away from home, that I wouldn't want to put myself out there, that I would feel insufficient.

Then, as He does, God provided. I prayed that if I was supposed to attend, the guilt would vanish In the next few days the full cost of my MTH ticket was paid with several incredibly generous gifts. I have never been given to like that in my entire life and I was blown away, but I knew God was soothing my nervous and guilty heart and telling me it was okay. Then we realized we could pay for my flight with flyer miles we had already earned in our one month of finances. At this point I was already filled with joy and confidence that the Lord was clearly speaking, I was supposed to attend. My only other obstacle was a room mate. I was nervous and felt like I was so young and I was going to be surrounded by all these incredibly inspirational business women and that I was just a 22 year old student teacher who wanted to hear incredible speakers and hopefully feel inspired for the next step.

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Lara Casey Media

Then I got a facebook message from Meredith Teasley. (If you are in Nashville and need a photographer- it's her!) She said that she was going to MTH, and that she saw we had a mutual friend in common, she wanted to know how I knew Collin. Collin was Ben's roommate throughout college. I cannot even convey to you people how much we love this man. Not only has Collin been an incredibly faithful friend to Ben, but I can honestly say I have a close friendship with him as well. He was a groomsman in our wedding (above photo.. blonde hair, black glasses) and took care of us so well on our wedding day. It then unraveled that Meredith had previously worked for Centrikid, the Christian camp where Collin had worked throughout college. She had hired him and worked alongside him, he had stayed at her house with her and her husband.... long story short they legitimately knew each other and my fears about being stabbed in the night by my MTH room mate were erased. More about Meredith and her influence in this whole process later..

I couldn't have heard a more audible voice that I was called to be at MTH for whatever reason... So off I went.

More soon!

PS. I AM OFFICIALLY DONE WITH STUDENT TEACHING. As Lara would say, Halleluljah, Amen, Thank you Lord!


  1. I love this post, Victoria! So happy to hear your path to MTH!

  2. Yay yay yay!!! Love you, sweet friend, and so thankful for your friendship! :) and I'm glad to hear that I passed the stabbing test! haha!

  3. YAY! So cool to hear a bit of your journey, love. So excited for you!

  4. This post makes me so happy! I cannot wait to see where your journey leads next, friend. I'm grateful for meeting you there and being able to stay in touch since. Come visit me and Meredith soon!!! xoxo

  5. Kristin Neal WinchesterApril 11, 2013 at 8:15 AM

    Yes!!! I love your heart and this post. I can't wait to read more. Congratulations on your last day of student teaching!!! Big hugs!!! (And I am joining the Nashville party. When are we going???)

  6. Hooray! I can't wait to read more in your journey! xoxo Yay for Nashville. :)

  7. YAY! I am so ready to read more!

  8. love this post, victoria!!! and I love YOU! :)

  9. This is so awesome, Victoria! I'm Emily, the girl sitting next to you on the first day who wants to be a teacher (such a funny coincidence) and who couldn't stop crying :)

    I relate to your story in so many ways! I too felt like I wasn't worthy of being at the conference and I also had INCREDIBLE gifts that made it possible for me to go! And, I'm also 22 and was intimidated by all of the amazing women attending. So happy to hear part of your story and I cannot wait to read more!

    P.S. I totally stalked your blog and am obsessed with the design, it is BEAUTIFUL, and am also obsessed with your wedding video, cutest thing ever. Congrats to you and Ben on starting a long and happy marriage!!


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