It is with great joy that we share a little secret... Sweet Baby Strader is coming in May!!!!!
Ben and I have always wanted to be parents. Even in our first few months of dating when we were 18 & 19 I remember us writing each other cards about how grateful we were that our desires for the future aligned. Some men are wonderful fathers but aren't natural with children until they have babies of their own, but Ben has always been the guy that wants to run around or read a book and snuggle with the littles in the family or in home group. I'm so in love with my precious husband and know he is going to be an incredible father.
There is much about our journey up until this point that I am eager to share, most notably that we experienced the devastating loss of our first baby on July 5 of this year. We found out about our sweet one while on our Italy trip, and the aftermath of our loss has changed our lives forever. Our first baby will always be remembered and cherished in our household. Even as we celebrate our baby coming in May, we longingly miss our first. Today is about celebrating this news with our friends, family, and sweet online community.. but I am eager to share the rest of our story and how the Lord has carried us through our grief, strengthened us, and given us joy in the darkness. We aren't afraid of questions or discussions about our loss, they celebrate the life of our little one. More on that soon.
How have you been feeling?
I've had pretty bad morning sickness. I'm grateful for the fact that our little one has been thriving and taking all of my energy and nutrients. :) A notable highlight would be the fact that I was miserably sick at my best friend Kristen's wedding a few weeks back. Props to Susan for letting me be sick in her car and taking me on emergency sonic runs. I'm certain that everyone who helped set up the wedding thinks that I'm the most lazy person in the world. I was nauseous throughout that whole process (and the bachelorette party) but the Lord truly carried me through and miraculously the only time in that two week period that I didn't feel miserable was during the actual wedding. So basically... I've been feeling not great. On the way to our first sonogram I threw up 5-6 times in the car on the way. I had this little fantasy of us having a day date before the sonogram but I just didn't feel up to it. After that, I got on some medication that's really helped. Our friends and family and especially Ben have all come together as a team and carried us through the first trimester!
Will you find out the gender?
We couldn't possibly find out the gender any sooner! We're planning on having a big old celebration reveal party with our friends and family to reveal to them after we find out at the doctor. I'll be 20 weeks the week of Christmas.. so that can give you some time frame. I'll share on social media asap after the reveal party. (Friends & Family reading this- tentatively save the date for January 2!)
Will you be sharing about your baby on your blog and on social media?
You'll probably be sick of me sharing. :) The hardest part of this year for us has been feeling like we have to "keep secrets"... we aren't secretive people at all so I've wanted to shout on the rooftops that we're ready for our little family. You can anticipate seeing lots of photos of our sweet babe and we'll also be sharing all of our preparations. Once we're settled on a name we'll share that with people close to us but will wait to publicly reveal on our baby's birthday. I found this post, "How I Protect my Family on Instagram" incredibly helpful and we'll be sticking with these guidelines.
What are your gender guesses?
I'm certain that this baby is a boy, and Ben thinks girl. On one side of our family, all of the grand babies are girls (8!) so at this point all of the family just thinks every baby will be a boy to break the mold but who knows. We just can't wait to find out and order little dresses or jon jons! :) Bring on the preppy baby style!
Will you keep working?
Yes and no. Ben recently also got his real estate license so our goal is to work as a team so that my #1 focus can be on our little family. But I'll still be working as a realtor and also continuing the work I do for my dad's publishing company. So I guess the answer is yes.. but baby comes first. :)
Will you stop traveling now that you have a baby?
Ben and I love traveling together and we are excited to make travel a part of our little baby's life. I took my first international flight at two weeks old and traveled frequently throughout my childhood. My parents are full of stories about how traveling from a young age accustomed my brother and I to acceptable behavior on airplanes (most often from the US to England) and in airports. I traveled solo for the first time internationally when I was 15. I've already done a lot of research on traveling with infants and we're hoping to make a trip to Europe before our baby's half year birthday.
All of these beautiful images were taken by our close friend Katherine Klein. If you're in the DFW area and are interested in beautiful photography.. contact her!!
YAY YAY YAY! Y'all finally know our happy news. Thank you in advance for celebrating with us! :)